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Hey, y’all! I thought I’d drop in one more time before the wedding and say hi! Some of you have expressed surprise that I still seem to be actively blogging despite preparing for a wedding in…11 days! (Or less, by the time some of you read this.) Lest I delude you, let me tell you a secret: I love schedulers. 😛 My Pinterest account is always taken care of by a scheduler, I have manually scheduled Facebook posts through the beginning of March, and the last six blog posts and their corresponding emails were all pre-scheduled to go out while I was in Louisiana or back in South Carolina with Ryan tying up wedding details. However, it still takes time to schedule things, and even though I do have recipes saved up to share with you, I’ve decided to take a break from creating blog posts until after the wedding, honeymoon, and move. I still drop in and take care of urgent correspondence and share a few things around on social media here and there so people don’t forget about all my old recipes that are always available here on my website, but that only takes an hour or two each day and leaves me more free time for things like
- designing wedding bulletins,
- finding a place to take family pictures,
- shopping for foodstuff and décor,
- ordering flowers,
- and all the many, many, many details that go into planning a traditional wedding.
I’m curious – did any of you love the whole wedding planning process? I’m definitely enjoying it more now that we’re focusing on the fun stuff like décor and food, but I don’t think I’d become a wedding coordinator for a living. 😛 I’m curious about everyone else’s wedding planning experiences, so if you have any stories, I’d love to read them in the comments. Did you coordinate your own? Hire everything out? Extravagant or simple? What was the most unique thing about your wedding? I’ll probably be posting some pictures of my wedding on the blog here in a few months after I get settled in to life in Louisiana, so it’s only fair that I get to hear some of your stories. 😉
Below: Our first supper in our new house! I made fajita chicken and veggies in the oven and we ate them on low-carb wraps. No chairs in the house yet, so we sat on the floor. 😛
Three weeks ago I took a load of my things down to Louisiana, and Ryan and I moved into our new house (we’re renting). Well, he moved in. I moved my stuff in but moved myself back to South Carolina. I’m a little jealous that he gets to live there without me for a few weeks, but the time is flying! Ryan’s dad and mom and brother flew down from Ontario to join us for the weekend and help us move in, so it was great to spend time with them – and they washed ALL the windows and mini blinds. I will be forever grateful. Ryan drove back with me to South Carolina then, and we spent the rest of the week with my family, going over wedding details, applying for a marriage license, etc.
Below: My spice cupboard is well-stocked thanks to all the ladies who came to my bridal shower in South Carolina!
I’ve always loved blogging, creating recipes and projects, and building a business – and I’ve always wondered (and worried) how I’ll eventually mesh that with having a family. I was very scared that I wouldn’t be able to trade my independent-businesswoman hat for that of wife (and maybe mother, someday). It’s just a choice I need to make, yes, but my obsessive compulsive disorder complicates seemingly-easy choices sometimes because my brain tells me I have obligations to fulfill. In this case, an obligation to “keep up” in my field of work. An obligation to post regularly. An obligation to answer all the questions people send me. Because of this, it’s a HUGE answer to prayer for me that in the last month or two, God has stepped in and very naturally and gradually changed my primary focus from my role as a businesswoman to my role as a supporter and helpmeet. I feel complete peace about letting the blog and publishing projects find their own place – more as a hobby than as a career. I no longer feel obligated to maintain a certain posting schedule here on the blog or finish my second cookbook by a certain date. I feel very free, and I am so thankful that God is helping me find the balance I have craved for a long time.
Below: Trying to find room in my cupboards for all my Tupperware! I’ve picked a fair amount up on my own at thrift stores over the years, and my bridal shower took care of the rest!
That being said, I know that I’ll have a significant amount of free time on my hands after the initial adjustments of moving are over, and I definitely don’t intend to disappear. I’ll keep working on my second cookbook, filling it with all the concoctions I’ll be trying out on my new husband. But I’m going to be a little more relaxed with my posting schedule. I’m going to let things happen as they happen and if I need to take a week or a month or a year off to be the wife my husband needs and fulfill other responsibilities that God calls me to, then I’m going to do that. To this control freak who runs her life according to a tight schedule and about 5 simultaneous to-do lists, the prospect of such flexibility is a little scary – but highly attractive at the same time.
I know I’m asking a lot of questions of you all today, but do any of you get where I’m coming from? Maybe you have similar obsessive tendencies and had to majorly change focus when you got married? Do you have any advice or strategies to share?
Below: Our church in Louisiana threw us a beautiful shower as well! So much good food and fellowship. It was neat that Ryan’s parents and brother could be in on it too!
Above all, God has been showing me that the most important key to a strong marriage is for Ryan and me to strengthen our relationships with God individually as well as together. If I’m not fully invested in God, drinking in His Word, bringing all aspects of my life to Him before bringing them to Ryan, and talking with Him often, my life goes downhill real fast! Being in a close relationship with another human being can exacerbate this because, well, we’re both sinners; but it can also accelerate growth if we are diligently seeking God because “iron sharpens iron.” (Proverbs 27:17)
And that, my friends, is my current life in a nutshell. Thanks for listening – and just being here. <3 God is doing wonderful things – in my life and in your life. Let’s give up ourselves, give up our expectations and obligations, and live passionately in God’s will one step at a time. I’ll see y’all in a few weeks!
Update: Thank you all so much for sharing your stories as well as your encouragement! I read every single one of them and smiled and nodded all the way through. 🙂 Hearing that married life only gets better with time is such a blessing and a testimony to the way God continues to shape us. Thank you all for sharing.