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This post complements last week’s post on “How to Feel Accomplished.”
I am…making nutritious meals for my family.
I am not…posting a lot of blog posts with the recipes for said meals.
I am…cleaning my house (adequately enough).
I am not…decorating it to the nines.
The pictures in this post were taken about a month ago, when Hadassah was five months old.
I am…changing lots of diapers.
I am not…doing “day in the life” stories on Instagram.
I am…doing laundry and folding it eventually.
I am not…sewing myself new dresses.
I am…mothering my daughter and being a wife.
I am not…pursuing my career and building my brand.
I am…making and capturing memories.
I am not…posting regularly on Facebook.
I am…sending cards (thank you, birthday, encouragement) to people in the mail.
I am not…replying to all blog and social media comments (but I do read them all and appreciate each and every one!).
I am…getting groceries for my family.
I am not…cleaning the basement and garage.
I am…clipping Hadassah’s daggery fingernails every couple of days.
I am not…routinely keeping up with my eyebrows.
I am…making an effort to take a walk or run on the treadmill most days of the week.
I am not…journaling every day.
I am…prioritizing Bible study.
I am not…keeping up with social media notifications.
I am…rocking my baby to sleep.
I am not…reading a chapter of my book in bed before leisurely turning the light off.
I am…feeding my baby when she wakes up hungry during the night.
I am not…getting a full night of sleep.
Every day I am playing with my daughter, feeding her, changing her, sometimes bathing her, meeting all her needs.
I am not my own independent person anymore.
Sometimes I miss that person. But not usually.
Would I like to be doing a lot of the things I am not doing? Yes, yes I would.
Do the “I ams” and “I am nots” always have to be mutually exclusive? No. But for me, right now, in this season of life, they often are. I have to set boundaries for myself or I’ll get caught up in the wrong priorities.
Right now this also means choosing between writing blog posts at the expense of responding to comments. Do I wish I could do both? Of course! But one can’t do everything, and my online time is limited, so I have to choose.
As I look through the list above I ask myself, “Will I regret not doing all the things I don’t have time for right now?”
No, no I won’t. I’ll never regret prioritizing my family over my career. I’ll never look back in twenty years and say wistfully, “I wish I would have spent more time on Instagram stories.” When I’m forging strong relationships with my adult children (Lord willing) and laughing at the antics of my grandchildren, I don’t think I’ll even regret the sleepless nights of young motherhood.
I’m accomplishing what I need to accomplish right now. That reminds me of Luke 10:42 –
“But one thing is needful: and Mary hath chosen that good part, which shall not be taken away from her.”
Taken out of context, yes, but if you read the surrounding verses I think you’ll see that the principle is the same. Prioritize the enduring and you will have no regrets, even if you don’t meet the world’s definition of success.
It’s worth giving something up to get the real thing.
What about you?
What are you prioritizing? What does balance look like in your life? I’d love to hear your thoughts in the comments!
My Approach to Social Media and Comments
As much as I enjoy blogging and interacting with all of you special people, I don’t want to spend my life on my computer or phone at the expense of my family. I’ve had to really limit my posting to social media to make time for any blogging at all, and I just can’t get around to responding to comments like I used to! I wasn’t able to completely catch up on Facebook stuff until six months after Hadassah was born, and even then I’m sure I missed a bunch of stuff.
I do try to respond to emails, and blog comments are always held for moderation so I see and approve each and every one, answering questions if necessary. If you have something important to tell or ask me, please do it through the contact form here on my website or in a blog comment, that way I will definitely see it. 🙂 Facebook and Instagram comments are great too, but I probably won’t always see them and questions may get missed.
On the same note, email is the best way to keep current on my blog posts! Facebook and Instagram only show my posts to a fraction of the people who follow me. Not the mention the fact that social media platforms come and go. There are so many new ones up and running even just in the last six months, and I really don’t have time to keep up with all that, so for now I’m focusing on my blog and email newsletter list – the things that I actually “own.” If you’re on my newsletter list, you’ll see my emails (unless they end up in your junk folder for some reason), and you can always unsubscribe at any time. You can sign up for my emails right here if you’re interested.
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